"My Husband is the Best!"

The phrase that seams to always pop up on facebook these days is " My husband is the best!" or "My husband is the most amazing in the world!" and I will not lie it has always kind of bugged me. It always came across to me as they were boasting and having a competition about their husbands, and I don't think that is necessary. But maybe it was just because I was single at the time that I was feeling this way. It wasn't until recently when I got married and fell more and more in love with my husband did I want to say the same thing, but never did for the fact that I didn't feel I needed to tell the whole world how I felt about him. The last couple of days I have been really thinking about this phrase as Andrew has been by my side as I hit a little bit of a rock bottom.

Before I start to explain why I hit rock bottom I want to just say how much I love and adore my job. I work with two amazing kids with autism that I have grown to love as a little brother and sister or niece or nephew. At times my job is the most fun and rewarding job, and others it is one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. This last month has been a tough one at work. I have felt like a bad tech, because I have struggling to help the little guy I work with and it has been slowly draining me. This last week I had had a very long week, some days working 12 hour shift with only a few hours of sleep. This causing me not only to be tired, but physically and mentally drained. Everything from the past month finally slapped me in the face and I was done. I needed to get away and just leave for a bit. Well that isn't exactly easy when you are recently married, both going to school and poor. So as I was thinking about what I could do I came up with the idea to save and do something fun for spring break. So that is what Andrew and I are going to do. And I can't wait!

So now you know why I was down I can tell you why I had been thinking about this phrase all weekend. Friday night I was laying on the coach and Andrew told me to go take a bath and try and relax so I did. After being in for about five minutes Andrew came in to check on me and we just started talking. It was fantastic! We hadn't talked like that for a bit, and it was what I needed. We talked about life, about school, our future, church, ect. The water started getting cold so I finally got out, got dressed and went and cuddled in bed with Andrew. We read our scriptures, said our prayers, then put a movie on and fell asleep. The next day was our 6 month anniversary. We had a great day planned, dinner, movie, cabelas, and just enjoying each other's company of course. Well that all changed when we realized that we just wanted to stay home and relax. So we did. It was a great day. That evening a read a blog a friend had posted on facebook, which probably wasn't the best idea. It was about a lady who had lost her husband after being married for 7 years, plus many other trials in her life. But that was the part that hit me the most. I just thought to myself what would I do if Andrew lost his life somehow, it made me cry and cry. Now Andrew has this magic talent where he can alwasy tell when I am crying someone. But he came over and was comforting me, but I didn't want to tell him what I was crying about, but eventually did. And I cried some more.

 While I cried it finally hit me, and it hit me hard. I was supposed to be with Andrew, and Andrew with me. He is the "Best husband in the world!" FOR ME! When time comes for someone to get married I hope and pray that they realize this on their own time. For me it took a little longer than what I wish it would have, BUT it came at the time I needed it to come. Heavenly Father brings our spouse to us because they are the BEST for us, along with us for them. Everyones spouse is the best for them, and in my eyes no ones is better than another, but for us our spouse is the best one in the world. I am so grateful for Andrew and the love and compassion he has had for me since day one. He means the world to me, and I fall more and more in love with him everyday!

A little bit of a getting to know you sesh.

Well I guess I am should get started with a little introductory of Andrew and I... fare warning, its long. ;)

Andrew and I both at Columbia High School, but probably never said a word to each other. I was the band geek, that lifted weights, and he was the football player, that I always cheered for in the stands not knowing my future husband was out on the field. Funny thought now that I think about it. Not until February of 2013 did we actually say our first words to each other. In his words I didn't want anything to do with him, always avoiding and not saying "Hi" when I went to talk to his friend as he stood next to him. Then one day our young single adults went Ice skating and I would skate around the loop and say hi to him, and make fun of him a little because he skated funny. Then in march we really started talking. As I came to the conclusion that this guy was pretty cute I started to make some moves on him, that he didn't realize one bit of course. Then finally one day I got home and got the courage to add him on facebook. Soon after he accepted the friend request and next thing I know we were in a conversation. Midnight came along and we finally swapped numbers as I told him that I would be willing to come hang out with him when he needed some company, him still not getting the hint. But we kept on talking tell 3 in the morning. Then the next day it started all over again as my phone buzzed and it was from him. Family home evening came around the next week, and it was a little awkward at first, but I just played it off and had a good time. That weekend Andrews good friend Adam and his girlfriend, now wife, were planning a trip to go camping, so I figured this was my chance, so I got him to invite me. Tell me about a nervous wreck I was, but it turned out to be a good time. Each "couple" rode in separate cars and it was a bit awkward at first but then we got talking and it was just fine. On the way home he held my hand, and my butterflies never left my stomach. As we got home he invited me over for dinner and to watch a movie with him and his sister and her fiancé. So I ran home and took a shower then went back to his house. That night he said I ran out after he kissed me, I was just in a little bit of a shock/freak out haha. A few days later we decided to make it official and it all went up from there. I very quickly fell in love with this handsome guy that just swept me off my feet and came out of no where.
Not just a month later were we engaged on May 1! What a surprise! I knew it was coming but I had no idea he was going to do it in the way he did. The day all started with me having a headache with a 14 hour long day at work. All I wanted to do was go home and go to bed. I kept getting text from Andrew telling me it was going to be a beautiful clear night and he wanted to look at stars tonight (which might I add in he never wanted to do so I was super confused). I kept telling him no though. Later that day my mom called and asked how my day was going. I told her I was planning on just going home after work, and she was very concerned about me going to Andrews. Saying that was super weird for me to not go over, since I was ALWAYS there! I still didn't want to do it though. Finally Andrew talked me into going over, I honestly don't remember how though. So as soon as I got off I made my way to the Allen's house to see Andrew. The minute I walk in the door Andrews dad ask me "Let me see this baby!" me very confused answered "Um...what are you talking about?" and quickly Andrews mom punches his dad and says "She doesn't have it yet!" then he answered "Oh I thought you got a tattoo" I then realized the reason I was there. ;) Andrew had no idea that I knew though. As it finally started getting dark Andrew and I made our way outside to look at the stars. I just happened to be a pretty chilly night though. I was freezing so Andrew went in and got me a blanket along with his moms Ipad so we could find the constellations. As we were looking up at the ipad and the stars Andrew put his hand up and pointed to a star, as I looked up at the one he was pointed at I saw a circle figure in between his two fingers and kindly asked him " What is that Andrew?" with a giggle in my voice of course. He came off like he didn't know what I was talking about, then eventually gave in cause I was freezing. Got down on one knee and asked me to be his wife. We kissed and went back inside. Got hugs from all his family, then sat on the couch and snuggled as I couldn't stop laughing I was so excited. =) I'm weird I know. We decided the date would be July 12 and I got on the wedding planning.
We decided to get married outside the temple, for personal reasons but I wouldn't have it any other way. Yes, I always dreamed about getting married in the temple first thing. But I must say it has been so fun and exciting for me to see Andrew come back to church and pray, read scriptures, be able to help give me a blessing, and start temple prep. I have been able to see his spirit grow as we have been able to go through this together, but also on his time. I have gone to the temple at least once a month since we started dating and just sit in the celestial room and just pray and ponder with my Heavenly Father about this amazing man he has brought into my life. He has become not only my husband, but my best friend and my rock to hold me up. And that has been more than once since we have gotten married, through the trials that we have had come upon us. The last six months have been some of the best I have had in a long time and even though they have been tough, especially for me, I wouldn't change it for anything. As I see Andrew becoming the priesthood holder I always dreamed of and knew he would be, I get teary eyed, because I know why Heavenly Father brought me to him and told me that it was "Ok" to not get married in the temple as I sat in the celestial room asking for his help on what to do. It was a hard decision for me, but after I got my answer I knew it was what I needed to do. Heavenly Father knew that we needed to be with each other at all times over these past six months to grow into the couple we needed to be. I can not wait as 6 months and 6 days from now we will be going and getting sealed in the temple for time and all eternity, and I think it will mean so much more to us as we go and do it. I know it will for me.
I am so very grateful for my Heavenly Father who has allowed me to be Andrews wife. I couldn't have asked for a more kind hearted, understanding, and loving man to be mine forever. I am so grateful for this gospel and the knowledge that we have and for the many spiritual experiences I have had with Andrew these past 9 months. I can't wait for this next year and for the years to come with my best friends. =)
Love-
Kenzie Allen